Be Your Own Person
I can’t express enough how important it is to be your own person, whether single or in a relationship. And what does that mean exactly? It means building a life for yourself that’s full of the things you love and to develop your own sense of self. Learn who you are as a person. What makes you happy, what do you enjoy doing, how do you like to spend a Sunday, what types of people do you want in your life. These are all ways to build a life you love. And that’s critical when you are single. As you are dating, you need to continue to stay true to yourself in order to find the person who fully embraces who you are. The worst case scenario is that you get into a relationship and lose yourself. So becoming your own person when single will allow you to gain a deep sense of self that you can always come back to.
Part of being your own person also means having your own opinions. I find that as women date, they become someone they think the other person wants them to be. They change their personality and don’t stay true to their opinions. So many women think that men want someone who is agreeable and has the same opinions. But that could not be farther from the truth. When I asked my boyfriend what he liked about me on our first date, he said what stood out was that I had my own opinions. I didn’t just agree with everything he said but instead was able to offer my own thoughts and perspectives. He found it to not only be attractive but kept him more interested to know more about me and my thoughts. Staying true to yourself, your beliefs and viewpoints allows the other person to know who you are. And anyone who does not like that, is not your person.
When you are independent in your own life and gain a sense of self, you will end up finding someone that accepts you as you which only leads to a healthier relationship. The people who are not clear in who they are, are the ones who find themselves in the wrong relationships. Because if they don’t know themselves, how can they truly know what they want and need in a partner? Not only that, but you will continue to have your own independence within the relationship. Yes, things will change but staying true to yourself and what makes you happy remains vital.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
