Single On Valentine’s Day
February 14th aka Valentine’s Day - a day full of flowers, candy, love and hearts. A day that couples look forward to and a day that singles dread.
It makes sense that singles don’t look forward to this day. It’s the ultimate reminder of their singleness and that there is not currently a significant other in their life. Restaurants are packed with couples celebrating, social media is flooded with posts about love and the local grocery store is sold out of flowers and chocolate.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
If I’m being honest, some of my favorite Valentine’s Days were the ones when I was single. Sure, I cherish the ones I spent in a relationship. But when I look back at the last few years single on Valentine’s Day, I’ve had the best time. One year I went to a big Italian dinner with friends and then to the movies to see a fun romcom. Another year I went out with a group of single friends and had a night on the town. Last year I hosted my single girlfriends for a taco and wine night.
How you approach Valentine’s Day is up to you. It’s completely normal for emotions to come up on this day. Because we are forced to face our singledom, whether we like it or not. And it feels like everyone else is in a couple and gets to celebrate this holiday, except for you. It’s natural to feel left out and lonely on a day like Valentine’s Day.
The first step is to recognize those feelings. Face them and challenge why you are feeling this way. Is this stemming from Valentine’s Day or is there a deeper want that is truly the root of your feelings. And once you figure out why you are feeling this way and what you want, decide how you want to move forward. If you are feeling emotional on Valentine’s Day because you are truly lonely and want to meet someone then how are you going to change your situation? Not on the apps? Sign up and create your profile. Not meeting people out in the real world? Address where you are going and your attitude as you approach in person situations. Reach out to friends (single or not) and plan social activities. There are options to change your situation but also to help make your life fuller so days like these don’t feel so daunting and emotional.
And while it’s important to recognize those feelings, it’s a choice to let Valentine's Day control your mood and how you take on the day. The key here is to remember that Valentine’s Day is just like any other day. It’s truly just a Wednesday and it will come and go just like every other day. So on February 14th,I recommend making plans that feel good and make you happy. Whether that’s getting a good workout in, cooking a yummy dinner or planning a girl’s night. Do what you think will make that Wednesday feel good. There are also a lot of singles events taking place on or around that date so take full advantage of that. Maybe you just meet new single friends or maybe you make a romantic connection. You never know what could happen.
I know that Valentine’s Day can be hard when you’re single but remember that mindset is everything.
So it is up to you if February 14th is a good day or a bad day. And before you know it, it will be February 15th.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
The Dating Blueprint Community - a safe space with weekly live trainings, consistent support from me as a coach and a public forum to ask for advice and to discuss dating with other single women going through the same ups and downs of dating and being single.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Form Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
