Valentine’s Day
Another year, another Valentine’s Day. I know that this day can be extremely hard for anyone who is single. And it makes sense. Leading up to February 14th there are reminders everywhere of this day and that it is solely for people who are in a relationship and in love. It can feel isolating and lonely. But it doesn’t have to be that way and you don’t have to let one holiday ruin your day or your mindset.
So how can you handle Valentine’s Day when negative feelings are coming up for you?
Acknowledge them - It won’t benefit you to ignore your feelings so instead, recognize those feelings. Create space to feel your feelings and give yourself some grace.
Challenge those feelings - The reality is that feelings are not facts. So ask yourself if what’s coming up for you is based on facts or feelings. And then reframe your thoughts based on actual facts. For example, instead of telling yourself “Valentine’s Day is going to suck because I’m single“ say “Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy it”.
Create a path forward - Do things that prioritize your mental health and give you a serotonin boost. Make a plan of what you can do on Valentine’s Day so it can be an enjoyable day rather than a negative one.
Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy that day. Some of my favorite Valentine's Days were the ones where I was single because I made them special for me. Whether it was dinner and a movie or hosting some girlfriends at my apartment. The biggest form of love is the one you give to yourself so use this day to do just that.
Here are some ideas to make this day fun and special for you.
Treat yourself - Self care is a great way to show yourself love. Whether it’s getting a facial or massage, having a great workout or taking a bubble bath. Taking care of yourself is a top priority on a day where you might be hard on yourself.
Celebrate Galentines - Grab your other single girlfriends and make it a girls night. I’ve done this many times either with a fun night out or a low key night in. Your other single friends might be feeling lonely as well so why not come together and have a great night.
Solo date night in - Cook a yummy meal or order in your favorite dish, light a candle and put on your favorite movie. Having a solo night in that sets the vibe for a date night with yourself is the perfect VDay activity.
The key here is to remember that Valentine’s Day is just another day. And it’s up to you how the day goes. You can either become a victim to those feelings that are coming up or you can flip the script and enjoy the day. The choice is up to you! But I recommend making it a special and fun day regardless of your relationship status.
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The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
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