What Is Your Why
When you think about dating, what is your why? Why are you dating? Why is it important to you? What is the reason you keep putting yourself out there, first date after first date. There has to be a purpose behind it that makes it all worth it. If you don’t have clarity around your why, then it will be much easier to lose yourself in the ups and downs that come with the dating cycle. And you are much more likely to give up. For example, I knew I wanted a long term partner to start a family with. The why behind it is because I want a partnership with someone where I can pour my love into them and vice versa. I have a vision for my future that includes building a family and a life with someone. I would tap into this future anytime I was struggling in my dating life.
So why is it important to know your why?
Stop yourself from quitting - There are times when you want to stop dating and don’t want to keep putting yourself out there. Dating can be exhausting. But tapping back into your why is what will stop you from giving up all together. Because there is a reason behind what you’re doing and that reason will fuel you to keep going.
Action towards your future - Look at your life and think about where you want to be in the next 5, 10, 15, 20 years from now. This vision for your future is directly linked to your why. By getting clear on your why, it will help you take actions that will get you closer to that future.
Alignment while you date - As you date, you will meet different types of people who have different visions and goals for their future. By understanding your own why, you can better understand if a potential partner aligns with what you’re looking for. Maybe you find yourself dating someone who isn’t looking for anything serious. That tells you right there, they are not your person because that is not someone who is ready to move towards the same why as you.
If you have not truly explored your why behind dating, then I recommend you grab a pen and paper and spend 10-15 minutes thinking about this. And as you go through the downs of dating, come back to what you wrote down for inspiration to keep going. Because there will come a day where you want to give up. And while you probably have every reason to give up, you have the most important reason not to. Your why.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
