Stop Waiting And Start Living
There is a common feeling that comes up among single people. And it’s the feeling that you are missing out. Missing out on experiences, dinners, trips because you don’t have a built-in person who will do those things with you. Especially later in life when your friends have started to settle down and have kids so their focus and time is elsewhere. It makes sense that doing some of those things gets harder as a single person. But while it may be harder, that doesn’t mean you should miss out on what you want to do.
While you may need to challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone, it’s worth it. Here are 4 ways to still put yourself out there and not miss out.
Find new single friends - As you enter your 30s, having go-to single friends becomes harder. But having people in your life who are single is very important. So you may have to find new single friends as your community starts to settle down. This can be through mutual friends, work, hobbies, Bumble BFF, social clubs. There are a lot of ways to put yourself out there and find a new single crew. And trust me, they are looking for you too.
Do things solo - This is where you might need to challenge yourself. Doing things solo might not be what you have in mind but there is something really rewarding about experiencing things on your own. Grab dinner at a fun restaurant, go to a concert, take a workout class. Solo date nights are very fulfilling and can even open you up to getting approached more easily.
Join a group - There are a lot of groups out there catered to singles that allow you to do fun and exciting activities. Look for a social club that hosts dinners, research travel groups for singles that are going somewhere on your bucket list or even just lean into your hobbies. These are all great ways to get out there, experience something exciting and to meet new people.
Be the third wheel - Listen, I know being the third or fifth wheel is not ideal but it’s all about your mindset and how you approach it. My friend’s partners have become some of my closest friends so grabbing dinner with them feels like I’m out with friends rather than a couple. If you enjoy hanging out with certain couples, ask them if they want to try a new restaurant with you or go to a concert together. Just because they are a couple doesn’t mean they won’t be great company. There is also no harm in asking your friends who are in relationships for a girls night. I’m sure they are craving one as well.
While I know this feeling of missing out can be disheartening, don’t lose sight of all the benefits of being single. Sure, having a partner has its benefits but so does your single life. For example, this morning I slept in, went to the gym and then ran a bunch of errands. I didn’t get woken up by my partner who got out of bed before me and I didn’t have to wake up early to get my kids ready for the day. I moved through my day fully on my own schedule. This is not the reality of someone in a relationship or with a family. Really think about what these benefits are and what you get to do because you're single. One day you won’t be and these benefits will not be a part of your life anymore.
I know a lot of single people are waiting to do certain things until they have a partner. But that means they are missing out when that doesn’t have to be the case. You don't need to wait for a partner. Stop waiting and start living. Because when you start living your life to its fullest, that’s when you will find the right person.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
