Your Words Matter
Your words matter. And what I mean by that is the words you tell yourself have an impact on your mindset and your mood. What you say and the words you choose are going to shape the outlook you have on life, people and different situations. I see this all the time when it comes to dating and being single. There is a direct correlation between how you choose to speak about dating and whether you have a positive or negative dating life. For example, if you say that there are no good single guys left, then you are only going to look for examples where this is true. The energy you put out into the world is the energy you will attract. So if you approach dating with that mindset, then you are going to attract shitty men. When in reality, there are a lot of great single guys out there but you’re going to miss them because you’re so buys focusing on the negative. Plus, they are looking for people with a positive outlook. Like energy attracts like energy.
If you want to make a difference in your dating life, the first step is to look internally and what you are telling yourself about dating and being single. So how do you shift your words to have a more positive outlook?
Think about the words you are using - Take a minute to reflect on what words you use to describe being single and dating. Be honest about how you describe and talk about these areas in your life.
Challenge those words - Ask yourself if these words create a positive or negative mindset around being single and your dating life. What stories are these words creating about dating? Consider how these words are truly serving you and your dating life.
Create alternative words - Explore how you can choose words that would support a more positive outlook and mindset. For example, instead of saying that all men suck, start shifting the narrative and tell yourself that there are good single guys out there.
Find examples - Once you start using alternative words, you need to look for expanders or real life examples that show you the alternative is true. For example, look for friends or people you know who have met great guys over the past few years. This disproves the original negative words you used and proves that there are other options.
I know it’s not always easy to remain positive, especially when it comes to dating and being single. But one way to help shift your mindset and create a positive outlook is with yourself and the words you are using. I like to think about it like this. If you had a single friend come to you who was speaking negatively about their love life, what would you say to them? Yes, you would empathize with them. But you would also try to uplift them and help them feel better about the current situation and their future. Think about if you would speak to your best friend the way you speak to yourself. And then apply that to you.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
