Dating Gets Better With Age
It’s always important to look back at how far you’ve come throughout different stages of your life. As you go through each year, each decade, look at how much you’ve learned and how much you have grown. And dating is no different. I would assume that as you look back at your life, you will find that dating gets better with age. Sure, at any age you’re still being challenged and figuring life out. But with age, comes more understanding and self trust which will have a positive effect on your dating life. As I personally look back on my 20s vs my 30s, it’s clear to me how much better it is to be single and dating in my 30s.
So what is it about getting older that makes dating better?
More life experiences - As you age, you have more dating and relationship experiences which give you a lot of lessons about yourself, life and relationships. These lessons help you gain a better understanding of what you want in a partner and in a relationship. What you thought you wanted in your 20s, becomes very different and more clear in your 30s, 40s and above. So you are able to have more clarity and choose relationships that are a better fit for you while walking away from ones that are not.
Maturity - There is also a maturity that comes with age, not just with behavior but in your understanding of dating and relationships. When you are younger, there is a lot more blame on yourself for being single and for relationships not working out. But as you age and grow, you start to understand that dating might feel personal, but it’s not actually that personal. Sometimes things are not meant to be and just don’t work out. And that’s okay. This is a hard lesson to understand but it’s one that you begin to realize as you mature and grow.
Increased confidence and self worth - As you grow into yourself and become a more whole and well rounded person, you also gain a lot more confidence and self worth. This is crucial when dating because you know what you deserve and won’t accept anything less. It also supports you in walking away from situations that don’t serve you whereas your younger self might not have had that confidence to walk away.
It’s important to note that there are going to be people who are emotionally unavailable, less mature and not ready for a relationship at any age. Getting older doesn’t remove everyone who is not aligned with you. Instead, you just learn how to navigate those situations so you spend less time worrying and trying to understand why things did not work out and instead spend more time moving forward and dating the right people. On the flip side, there will be more people who have been in long term relationships and understand what it takes to make something last long term. So that is definitely another positive as you get older.
While I do believe dating gets better with age, it’s important to acknowledge that you are never perfect and you are always learning and growing. There are still going to be times when maybe your maturity and confidence gets challenged. And that is completely normal. At the end of the day, all you can do is control the controllable aka yourself. Lean into the lessons and the self trust your age has given you, so you can spot the red flags earlier and move through situations that don’t align with you much faster. And most importantly, to enjoy how far you’ve come.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
The Dating Blueprint Community - a safe space with weekly live trainings, consistent support from me as a coach and a public forum to ask for advice and to discuss dating with other single women going through the same ups and downs of dating and being single.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
