Gratitude

Maybe it’s because we just celebrated Thanksgiving but I’m feeling a lot of gratitude these days. More specifically, a lot of gratitude for my single life. But I know this is not necessarily the norm. For most singles, the holidays can bring up a lot of negative feelings around being single. And why wouldn’t they when you have family members asking why you’re still single or when you’re seeing all of the engagements happening during this time. So needless to say, those feelings are completely normal.

But there can also be a mindset shift that happens here. The holidays are really a time to look at your life and acknowledge everything you are grateful for. So think about what you are thankful for in this single stage of your life. Yes, having a significant other during the holidays sounds great but so does not splitting time between two families during the holidays. When you’re single, you have more quality time with the people in your life rather than needing to share that time with someone else’s family. I’m sure you will be very happy to do that one day, but for now you can enjoy the ability to be selfish when it comes to time with your loved ones.

It’s important to remember that being single is just a phase in your life. One day you will be in a relationship and you may never have this solo time again. And even though you will be happy you found someone, there are going to be aspects of being single that you miss. Like the freedom to do whatever you want or having solo space that is just yours. So make sure you take the time to enjoy it and be thankful for it while you still can.

I highly recommend taking out a journal and spending 15 minutes creating a gratitude list. This list can include everything from the super small to the big. Get as detailed as you want. This is important because you want to refer back to this when you need a mindset shift. Just because you recognize why you are grateful for your single life and create a gratitude list, doesn’t mean you’ll always feel grateful for being single. There will still be times when negative feelings come up, especially around the holidays. So use this list as the reminder you need to shift out of that.

The holidays can be a tough time when you’re single. But they can also be a fun and magical time. The decision as to which it is, is yours. So I urge you to look at it with gratitude and take advantage of what this time in your life has to offer.

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