Romanticize Your Life
The phrase “romanticize your life” comes up a lot in social media these days. And I agree that this is very important to do especially when you are single. But what does it mean exactly? Romanticizing your life encourages you to appreciate what you have, live in the moment and find joy in the everyday. You can achieve this through gratitude, doing activities you enjoy, making the ordinary fun and being mindful. When we hear the term “romance”, it’s typically in reference to a couple or relationship and not necessarily talking about one person. But just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you can’t have romantic moments solo.
So why is it important to romanticize your single life?
Enjoy the little things - The main idea here is to find joy in the everyday tasks and the small parts of life that give you joy. But we usually take those things for granted. So this forces you to slow down and smell the roses. Instead of rushing through your morning routine, take your time doing your skincare and making your morning coffee. Get excited to light the new seasonal candle you just bought that will make your home cozy. Enjoying these trivial things will make your normal day a bit more special.
Treat yourself - Leaning into this phrase forces you to take care of yourself and indulge a little bit. When you’re single, you don’t always receive the small gestures of a partner so do them for yourself instead. Draw yourself a bubble bath, buy yourself flowers, and make a nice home cooked meal. Treating yourself will still leave you feeling appreciated and loved.
Make solo moments special - We spend a lot of time alone when we are single and that can make you feel sad and lonely. So why not make those times alone feel a bit more memorable? We don’t need to have a partner in order to make a night in feel special. Put on your favorite face mask, watch a fun romcom or order in your favorite meal with a glass of wine. The more you learn to enjoy time alone, the more you will enjoy your single life.
The key here is to keep it simple and set the vibe. You don’t need to overwhelm yourself and make this a whole experience. Something as simple as lighting a new candle or doing some self care can make a difference in your solo day. And if your experience involves doing something out and about, make sure you’re excited and looking forward to it.
Now let’s talk about the Sunday Scaries. Having a lot of time alone can be hard, especially when the Sunday scaries hit. It’s completely normal to feel lonely and sad on Sunday’s because this is typically the day of the week when we wish we had someone. When the week has slowed down and you’re having a low key afternoon in prep for the week ahead. It’s important to think about how you can make these days better and more enjoyable. When I went through a bad breakup in my 20’s, Sunday’s were really hard. But then I learned to love my solo Sunday’s. They became “me” days where I created a routine I loved that involved hot yoga, grocery shopping, prepping and cleaning for the week and enjoying my trashy reality shows. Now my Sunday’s are my favorite day of the week, with or without a partner.
Remember, just because you’re not in a relationship, doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your life. Especially the most ordinary tasks and those moments alone. But the secret is to romanticize it and lean into making even the most mundane activities feel special.
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The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
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