Single Girl Summer
Summer is here and that means it’s officially Single Girl Summer. But what exactly is Single Girl Summer? It’s the season where you enjoy yourself, get out of your comfort zone and have some fun! Less focus on the dating apps and more focus on getting away from the screen. Summer is a great time for dating because everyone is out and about. And let’s be honest, people are just generally in a better mood because their winter depression has melted away. This means it’s time to take advantage of all that summer has to offer.
So how do you take full advantage of Single Girl Summer?
Create A Full Life – The key here is to create a full and happy life that you absolutely love. This means writing a list of 5-10 activities that you want to do this summer. But these must be things that truly get you excited and will spark joy. The mindset going into these activities is light and fun. Just think about expanding your social circle, meeting new friends and building new relationships. This is going to be great practice for when you do see someone out that you are interested in romantically. And yes, it would be great to meet someone through these activities but that is not the focus. Because you are creating a full and happy life regardless of meeting someone. That would just be the cherry on top to an amazing Single Girl Summer.
Find Your People – Next, you want to find the people in your life who are going to be on this fun ride with you. Write a list of people who are going to be your crew this summer. This doesn’t just have to be other single friends but includes your married friend, your friend with a boyfriend, or even a couple. More important than their relationship status is that these are Yes people. These people are social, excited to do things with you, open minded and can keep the energy up. Fill them in on your plan for a Single Girl Summer and how you are enlisting them as your crew / your wing person in this plan. And make sure they are an active participant. What are fun activities they can bring to the table? And are they thinking of you when they are out and about, meeting other single people? Make sure they are truly part of this fun journey with you and are excited about it.
Get Uncomfortable – Here’s the truth, Single Girl Summer is all about getting out of your comfort zone. Get ready to make eye contact, smile and approach the cute guy at the pool. This is exactly why you should be practicing when you meet new friends in your full and fun life. So that when you see the cute guy in your pottery class, you feel more confident going up and saying hi. Think about how staying comfortable hasn’t been working for you. Which means to get what you want, you need to get uncomfortable.
Now that you know the key to having a Single Girl Summer, let’s talk about mindset. Mindset is everything in life, especially when it comes to dating. If you are not in the right mindset then the above is not going to work how it’s supposed to. Instead of falling into a negative or scarcity mindset, we want to think positively and with abundance. I recommend coming up with a handful of mantras to tell yourself this summer anytime the negative thoughts creep into your mind. This will help shift your mindset back to where it needs to be.
Here are four summer mantras I love:
I trust in the timing of my life, everything is happening for a reason – This one is KEY! You need to trust that everything happens for a reason, and when it’s supposed to happen. Think of examples in your own life where this has already proven to be true.
I can have everything I want – This mantra creates an abundance mindset. The belief that there is enough resources, time, opportunities and partners available for everyone.
Thank you, more please – Every time something good happens (a positive interaction, a great date, a fun night out, a match on Hinge), say this to the universe. This acknowledges that something good happened, so you thank the universe and ask for more of that.
Lucky girl syndrome – This is a way of thinking that you are lucky so good things will happen to you. Because you have lucky girl syndrome, things are just going to work out well for you this summer.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
The Dating Blueprint Community - a safe space with weekly live trainings, consistent support from me as a coach and a public forum to ask for advice and to discuss dating with other single women going through the same ups and downs of dating and being single.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
